Today, my friend Stefanie told me about Katrina Kenison and her book (and video) titled "The Gift of an Ordinary Day" and I was so moved that I wanted to share it with others. I have three teen boys who seemed to have grown up right before my eyes. I was a single parent (for my biological son) for over 10 years and remember many moments where I secretly wished the future would arrive faster so he'd be more capable, more mature, more helpful so I wouldn't always feel like the tired, hurried mommy. If he would just go potty by himself, life would be easier. If he could just climb out of the car by himself and tie his own shoes, my life would not be so hectic. If he could just make himself a sandwich or take a bath on his own, I'd have have more time. I'm embarrassed to admit I even remember thinking "if he could just read by himself, I'd get more chores done".
I occasionally catch myself doing it now, even though my 14 year old now mows the grass, does his own laundry and washes the dishes after dinner. If he could just drive, I wouldn't have to leave work early. If he could just get a job, I wouldn't be constantly shelling out allowance. Katrina's words are wonderful reminders for me to savor the ordinary and cherish the moments where I still have the opportunity to help him, to teach him, and simply enjoy him. Soon he'll be in high school, than college, and living independently out in the world without any help from me. When that time comes, I suspect I'll trade anything to tie one more shoe, make one more sandwich, read one more book, and shuttle one more teen to the sporting goods store.
Imagining what that longing will be like makes me suddenly grateful that I have a few more years to have everyday moments with my kids. I have a whole new appreciation for the time I have left with them in my house. So excuse me, I have a sandwich to make.
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